Life can be quite challenging at times. People go through their own ups and downs, and they take chances to improve their situations as they steer through life.
Few are able to rise above and beyond their odds, but many working just as hard, are not.
This raises a major question. Why are so many people unable to alter the course of their lives? And why are they not making the choices or changes that'll help them reach their goals?
A wise man once said:
"Life is like a game of chess. To win you have to make a move. Knowing which move to make comes with IN-SIGHT and knowledge, and by learning the lessons that are acculated along the way. We become each and every piece within the game called life!"
Sometimes, all we really need to thrive is to take a step back and adjust our course of action with the right knowledge. We need to develop strong positive habits and shift the way we think to be able to take 10 leaps forward in the right direction.
We all have our moves to make in life, but how well we make each move is going to directly determine the outcome of our future.
Therefore, we need to prepare ourselves today for the choices we make tomorrow and every single day.
The best possible way to do that? Through the unique field of personal development.
If you're still not experiencing the transformations that you'd wish to be seeing in your life, we're here to tell you -- it's never too late to take back the reins and surpass all your expectations.
Below, we cover 6 key personal development principles which are the core to helping you overcome a huge majority, if not all of your personal and business goals in life.
Let's dive right into it the golden rules, shall we?
1. Take full responsibility for your life and your results.
Most people go on quickly to look out externally when problems arise, not ever really looking on the inside.
Those are the types of habits that can permanently hold any person down if they let it.
That means that us as individuals and entrepreneurs, we have to continually look at ourselves and realize that no one can make our lives better but us.
We have to let go of all the excuse making, all the complaining, all the thinking that "if the world were different, then we would be better off". And instead, begin tailoring our own thoughts and actions to the desired outcomes we want. Because without exceptions, that is the only thing we will ever have complete control of.
World-class personal development speaker Jim Rohn puts it this way:
"You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of."
Those who point fingers at people or blame their circumstances for their setbacks will find that it is the closest path to avoid enhancing and improving the qualities of their lives.
On the other hand, if you accept responsibility for your life and your results, you'll strengthen your ability to cope with tough situations, you'll make smarter decisions, and you'll resolve every new challenge around you with complete confidence and with the right kind of 'winner' attitude.
As the great John C. Maxwell points out:
"Successful people don't have any fewer problems than unsuccessful people; they just have a different mindset in dealing with them."
Sooner or later, if you work at it, being in charge of your destiny and a problem-solver will become a habit for you, and eventually, it will become a part of who you are.
2. Believe in yourself and raise your standards.
Too many people underestimate themselves and retain lower-than-average standards for what they can and can't achieve or who they can and can't become.
It has been studied and explained that we hold within us the tendencies to reduce and diminish the beliefs of our own abilities to accomplish certain things in our fields.
But those beliefs don't come even close to the full potential we all have within us or the heights we are capable of attaining.
When you no longer allow the internal conflicts in your mind to lead you off course as well as the everyday conflicts of life to pull you down day-by-day, and you finally decide, "this is how it's going to be for me in my life".
That's how you raise your standards and unleash your potential.
Not by chance, but by choice.
Realize that who you are and how far you've come, is all your doing.
Otherwise, as a result of not seeing the giant within yourself or holding yourself to a higher standard, you will go through life letting the choices of others drown out your inner voice and dictate your life's direction.
Tony Robbins tells us best:
"If you don’t set baseline standards for what you’ll accept in your life, you’ll find it easy to slip into behaviors and attitudes and a quality of life that’s far below what you deserve."
Our standards and beliefs are adopted early on in our lives by our environments and conditioned to us by our family and teachers. But as we grow, it is up to us to adjust and take control of them.
Who you are today and who you've become is a direct result of your standards. And in the same exact way, the quality of your work and the quality of your life is also determined by the standards you set for yourself.
The mastermind behind Mc Donald's gives us his own view on it as well:
"The quality of a leader is reflected in the standards they set for themselves."
So don't sell yourself short. You are better and more capable than you may think at this time.
Believe in yourself, hold yourself to a higher standard, realize your true potential, and pursue the inspiring challenge of becoming the greatest version of yourself you can become.
You already have it within you, and it all starts with believing you can.
3. Have a clear goal.
At times, you will meet people who don't have any goals for their near or far future. People who have no compelling vision for what they truly want out of their lives or what they want to do over the next 2-5-10 years.
In today's world, you must have a crystal-clear goal for what you want.
Otherwise, if you don't know where you want to go, you won't be able to deliberately adjust your path to that exactly.
In the same way that a ship at sea would be lost without a destination, never reaching a desired harbor. You would be off-track in any area without a goal, never arriving at your desired destination.
In other words, you simply can't get from point A to point B unless you know where point B stands.
And as Tony Robbins describes:
"Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible."
So if you're not where you want to be in life right now, could it be because you aren't clear about your goals? Could it be because you don't have your dream plan mapped out?
For the majority, the gap between their dreams and their current realities can become reasonably intimidating. So, many hold back never truly setting any definite goal.
But you should know that there hasn't been a person alive who has known how to reach a goal before they've attained it.
So do not get discouraged if you don't have all the answers yet. You will find them in due time, if only you set an aim and start pursuing it at once.
Which brings us to the next step.
4. Take massive action.
A lot of times, we will have unique ideas and big dreams for our future. But in order for us to progress towards them and fulfill them, we're going to have to move into action.
When people consistently take action and make suitable course corrections in regard to what they truly want and their desired outcomes, they get massive results and achieve all their goals.
But if they lack the necessary drive, motivation, and discipline to leap into action, they will start being slowly steered away from their goals.
It would be no different to them if they had no dreams or goals of their own.
And after all, what's the purpose of having any dreams or goals if you don't propel yourself to pursue them?
Everyone wants to create a better life, but not everyone is willing to do what it takes to get there.
We must recognize that the decisions and actions we take every day are going to affect and determine the results we get in the weeks, months, and years to come.
Added up over time? They can and will make a huge difference in our lives.
So execution truly is a key factor to success in any field.
For this reason, when you have an idea, a vision of what you want to accomplish. Don't hesitate. Get the inspiration, get the courage, and take massive action starting at once.
As Zig Ziglar once said:
"You don't have to be great to get started, you just have to get started to be great."
Begin today, focus on mastering your craft, and sooner or later, you will get to where you want to be and become who you want to become.
5. Evaluate and improve your behaviors.
After taking action, here's the challenge:
Not every action you take is going to work.
So if every action has the possibility of running us into a roadblock, we have to repeatedly test and evaluate.
We need to take action and then asses. Did it work?
If it did. We learn, improve, and expand on those patterns and advance towards them. If it didn't work, we must adjust our approaches accordingly.
We make better decisions, take smarter actions, and again, continually evaluate them at every step of the way until we arrive at something that hits the ball out of the park.
That's a growth-oriented mindset.
However, did you notice the reasoning behind it? The goal didn't change, the approach did.
Many people try just one or two approaches before giving up on their dreams and goals.
But the ultimate key lies within taking smart action and if things don't go as planned, you perform and advance in a different and better way (taking into account what you've learned in the past) while still aiming at your goals.
Just as Conficius explained:
"When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don't adjust the goals, adjust the action steps."
Don't let go of your vision as fast as others do. Instead, try to observe and identify the areas you can change or improve in yourself first. The things you can boost in your business, in your thinking, and in your day-to-day actions.
And before setbacks even arise, you will be armed and ready to overcome them at every step of your journey.
6. Stay committed and persevere with strong reasons.
If we want to reach our dreams, we have to stay committed towards doing better in our lives, in our relationships, and in our work. We have to stay focused on pulling through all of our goals and responsibilities, all of our actions and decisions, no matter the setbacks we experience. We have to persist.
How you may ask? Reasons. Reasons are the pillars behind everything we do. They will empower us in the most challenging times and fulfill us in the most memorable moments. But most importantly, they will remind us of why we do what we do.
- If you're growing a business, one reason to persist might be for the freedom and security for you and your family.
- If you're building a relationship, one reason might be for the bright future you see ahead.
- If you're trying to develop yourself, it could be reasons such as the consequences you will face for standing still.
There are positive and negative reasons in each area of our lives that could inspire us every day. But they need to be meaningful enough to pull us forward.
What are some strong reasons you can think of for waking up in the morning? For getting to work, for building your relationships and becoming a better you?
Whatever your reasons are, you must clarify them, because they are nothing less than an unlimited supply of power for your commitments.
Otherwise, there may be moments when your determination to attain your goals could start to derail. Moments when you let the circumstances around you influence your path and your environment dictate and drive your decisions.
In the long-run, without the right reasons, it could all have a huge spiral effect on the outcome of your life, and that isn't something you can afford.
You only get one try at this life.
But if you do find the right reasons to persist, you will find yourself getting back up after every and any difficulty. You will become greater at everything you do. You will leave no stone unturned and push the limits of your own capabilities to a point where a huge majority throw in the towel, lose hope, and turn back from.
You will keep on going.
As Thomas Edison explained one day:
"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is to always try just one more time."
Persevering in your goals and in developing your own self, your actions, and the results you set out to achieve, is one of the greatest determining factors that will lead you to true progress in life. And your reasons will most definitely play a major role in helping you go the distance and stay on course.
Ultimately, the more you carry out these principles, the more you will begin to see the positive changes surface within you and around your life.
You will start becoming increasingly more acute to finding just the right solutions to your challenges, and you will start seeing your obstacles as essential stepping stones to your growth.
You will fuel your willpower with reasons that'll help you take charge of your path, and in the process, you will have eliminated the many motives people have for avoiding responsibility.
Yet most importantly, you will be proud to witness the person you are becoming as you press on for your dreams and reach all of your desired goals.
Do not let anyone convince you that you are not capable of accomplishing what you hold in your mind. You undoubtedly are. Keep working at your plans regardless of the challenges you may face and take back the reins of your destiny. The outcomes and rewards for your continued self-development will be clearly visible and forever lasting.
Keep learning and keep growing.
- The Mainston Team